what to do when you’re feeling directionless

Feeling lost sucks but ultimately it’s about doing something when you feel totally aimless. Traveling can help when you’re feeling directionless, which is ironic that getting lost in a new place can simultaneously help you find some direction. But it’s pretty true for me, and has really helped me gain some insight into what to do next after planning a trip even if it’s an hour commute or a 2-night trip.

I used to wait to travel until someone could come with me, but the reality is, you keep getting older and people keep getting busier. They have their own significant others they plan trips with, or a group of friends from their college or a new city and it just becomes harder and harder to plan big trips with friends that are sometimes across the country from you.

I decided to stop waiting for anyone to be readily available for travel because it didn’t look like a trip was going to happen anytime soon if that was the case. Living in New York, it’s an understatement to say you need to get out every once in a while. Since home for me is another huge city, it’s a relief when I go on a trip that is anything besides a city. Having a way to slow down and breathe is probably the way I stay in New York. Any other way, I don’t know how I’d survive here.

It took me a while to get used to traveling by myself and doing things in general by myself, especially after doing everything with someone else. You think you’ll get lonely, but from my experience, actually the opposite is true. Spending time with yourself is really enjoyable, as long as you’re spending your time right.

When you’re traveling by yourself, be careful. Share your Airbnb info with someone you trust, share your phone location with friends and family, tell people the itinerary of your trip, and make sure you have researched the area you’re staying. The beautiful next thing is that you can plan to do whatever you want to do, no strings attached to someone else’s preference. Traveling by yourself can be liberating, and kind of scary, but in the end it’s totally worth it. To get an experience all to yourself is kind of the point of doing things yourself, you learn a lot about yourself in the process, and find ways to enjoy life that you might’ve missed prior to catching your flight.

I got tired of waiting around for life to happen. And you probably will too when you hit a wall and realize you’ve been waiting on the sidelines for life to happen. Or maybe this isn’t the case for you at all. Hopefully it’s not, and you are way ahead of where this is going. The point is, traveling by yourself is a great step towards taking control of your life. Feeling lost sucks and not doing anything about it sucks even more. If you want to do something, do it, and for me, that was traveling on my own to experience what I want to experience. Cheers to getting lost in a brand new city.

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