Friendship breakups feel like your world is ending. At least for me. It’s like you’ve lost a part of yourself, an arm or something, and unfortunately it’s not coming back.
Everyone talks about romantic breakups in movies, songs, and tv shows, but what about the gut-wrenching feeling of getting into a fight with your best friend that you know just isn’t going to be fixable?
The best thing you can do for yourself is move on, let go, and take care of yourself. Unfortunately I am terrible at all of these things and have an unbelievably hard time letting go. It’s like part of me wants to suffer. And I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way. If I am, congratulations on winning the lottery.
Anyways, I think there’s something to be said about how hard friendship breakups are. I went through a fair share of them last year, mostly because I moved across the country and changed a lot, and realized a lot of people I used to surround myself with just weren’t good for me. Although friendship breakups are really tough to go through, when you are recovering it might be helpful to think about why it ended: they probably weren’t good for you in the first place.
After you go through the painful feelings, you might be grateful for the change on the other side. I’m saying this because if you are going through one right now or have in the past, this might give you a little hope that it’s for the best, and I think we can all use a little more positivity and hope.
When I went through a friendship breakup with a friend of 10 years, I was devastated. It felt like I really lost a huge part of my life, and there was a big spot to fill that I wasn’t sure was replaceable. Something I learned was that when these things happen, you find new friends that fill your cup, and other close friends you have become closer friends. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel, whether you see it or not.