20’s: the worst and best decade

Most people in their 20’s are so obsessed with spending time with other people, so obsessed that I feel like they actually forget to spend time in a way that will benefit them in the long run. If you’re in your 20’s and haven’t read a single book on the subject, I’m praying for you, because there’s a lot to be said on what we can do with the short time we have.

I think a lot of influence of why we spend so much time socializing during our 20’s comes from Instagram, because if you don’t repost a photo of your dinner someone tagged you in, how will everyone know you had plans on the weekend? There’s also this pressure to party during your 20’s because it won’t be a part of your lifestyle when you get to your 30’s (hopefully). You’ll have a mortgage, kids, and a career to focus on, not barhopping til 4am Friday and Saturday.

It’s underrated to enjoy time by yourself in your 20’s. It’s also kind of frowned upon, in a way, because it seems like the thing you’re supposed to be doing is going out and doing everything with everyone at all hours. And, yes, leading a healthier life in your 20’s can get boring, but it’s better than hitting 30 with hanxiety and 20 friends who probably don’t remember your name you had to scream to them, drunk, over the music in a nightclub.

The things I think everyone should experience in their 20’s are traveling, learning how to do activities by yourself, and figuring out what you like. Traveling, even if it’s small weekend trips because we’re not made of money and we can’t take weeks off of work in a row, is a refreshing change of pace, especially if you live in a big city. Going home can be nice but also halt any growth from happening if you start doing it every weekend. Better yet, traveling alone should be experienced in your 20’s, which brings me to my next point: learning how to do activities on your own.

It took a lot for me to learn how to do things by myself. I don’t mean waking up to get to work, or taking care of yourself. I mean activities you’d do with a friend, but enjoying them on your own. A hike (only if you’re good with directions, please don’t get lost in the woods), a painting class, a trip upstate, anything that can get you out of your comfort zone while doing it alone is worth the time. Once I started trying things by myself, I realized it’s not as horrifying as I made it out to be. That was a dramatic way to say that I was really nervous to try activities by myself, maybe because I’ve been used to having people around constantly, or maybe because I was worried what other people might think. Either way, it’s worth my time, every time. I have a trip planned for a long weekend where I booked the Airbnb, train ticket, and planned the itinerary for myself and I couldn’t be more excited. I’ve traveled by myself before, and absolutely loved it. There’s something about accomplishing enjoyable activities on your own that brings you joy in an independent way nobody else would be able to provide.

The last thing I think is so important to accomplish in your 20’s that I think a lot of people overlook, is finding stuff you like. Figure out your preferences. This is the corniest thing people always say, “find some hobbies :)” but it’s actually really important. What do you like to do? What are your preferences for life? What kind of music do you like? Do you like eating out or ordering in? How will you know if you don’t try both, preferably by yourself so you’re not influenced by someone else’s preferences and being that person that says “whatever you prefer!”

Time is passing fast and you should use your 20’s wisely. I’d rather not wake up at 30 with the hangover from hell, numbers in my phone I will never contact sober, and no clue what I like to do because I was a pick-me girl, “going with the flow” of whatever time brought me. F*ck going with the flow.

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